Who carries initiation and repair?
Count the last five initiations of connection, apology, or logistics. If four or five are yours, the imbalance is not subtle. It is the structure.
Effort that only travels one direction does not become mutual by trying harder. It becomes your second job.
What changes when you stop over-functioning?
When you pause the extra labor for a short window, the gap becomes visible. Either the other person steps in, or the silence confirms what you already sensed.
A private read on kionese.com can help you name one situation without performing certainty you do not feel yet.