Who remembers, who repairs, who softens first?
If you are the one who notices distance, names it, and offers the bridge, you are doing two jobs: your half and the relationship's operating system.
Resentment is often unpaid labor speaking. It is not automatically a character flaw.
What happens when you put the load down?
A short experiment: stop prompting, stop planning their half, stop translating their silence. The gap that appears is information.
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