What does the stay-or-leave loop actually protect?
When the same question returns every few days, it is rarely a fresh decision. It is a way of not closing either door. Leaving would cost a life you still hope might soften. Staying would mean admitting the soft version is not arriving.
Notice what changes when you answer for one week only. Not forever. One week of what you already know about how the argument ends, who initiates repair, and whether you feel smaller after contact.
How do you tell fear from a real pattern?
Fear invents new reasons. Patterns leave tracks. Same fight. Same silence after closeness. Same promise with the same deadline that slides.
If three recent weeks share the same shape, the question is not more information. It is whether you will keep waiting for a version of the relationship that has not shown up. For a private, timed read of one situation, use kionese.com — not a score, not a chat that never ends.